Give me some advice here people?
My best "friend" for the past gawd knows how many years has suddenly gone silent.
We are a few days away from going away forever.
Hubbs phoned her hubs and asked for a lift to the airport and he said no. Well fair enough, but that shouldn't be a reason to cut us off?
I want to know why, and I would like her to explain.
Her Hubby is very controlling and very materialistic. I don't know if it because we lost everything? or because they feel guilty that we worked on a project together that only they profited from (by their own means)and fair enough. They had to money to do it, and we just went under, and STILL weren't bitter.
Ah. What do I do?
Do I ask her, or do I leave it.
I hate not knowing why someone would just cut me out of their lives like that.
I would still like her to be my friend.
The reasons I can think of are as follows: Bear with me here!!
When we first met our sons were 18 months old, now they are 22. My ex hubs and hers worked together, they didn't get along. But we did. They fell out, and I wanted to stay in touch - she didn't
Fast forward to 10 years later. I met her again. Her hubs had, had an affair, and she said if I had been around things would have turned out differently and I would have given her good advice. (they are still together)
A couple of months later my ex had an affair and I chucked his sorry ass out!!
She was SO there for me.
We remained friends for ages, although me and her Hubs don't really get along.
Anyhoo. Me and new Hubs We went into a property developing thing with them. They put up the money. My hubs did most of the work, even employing his crew on our credit cards to get it done. (they refused to reimburse him, saying he would get the money when it sold). Well, it was just at the time the market plummeted, and guess what it didn't. Meanwhile we were faced with repossession of our home, so they paid all the mortgage stuff and even got a flat out of the proceeds, which they now rent. And I think a 3rd property too. They are well in the money. We have enough to get us back "home"
We weren't bitter, it is what it is right?
But now. NOW, we have a chance to drag ourselves out of the mess we are in and start a better life. Suddenly we are persona non grata? eh?
Were we only allowed to be friends when we were looked down on and in the position where they could lord it above us?
I mentioned quite innocently last time I was there that my brother-in-law had a boat house and maybe when we got on our feet we might buy a small motor boat to have fun at weekends.
Her Hubs got all aggressive and started to tell me about all the property and money they have.
OK? I think I might have answered my own question
But it isn't about him. It is about us and the friendship I thought we had. Sorry to go on. But it is really stressing me out. Do I mail her, or don't I?
